What is love?

I love you JB

This is an extract from my own personal journal. Its what I find love to really be when you truly have found that one person that you're sure is your soul mate. 

To love is to be vulnerable. There's always a chance that your heart could be broken. But it's a chance worth taking to find your soul mate. To have someone that can make you unconditionally happy. They give an overwhelming sense of security, you know that no matter what life throws at you, you've got that one special person who will always be there for you when times are tough; they make you feel safe when no one else can. 

   

Finding true love is the most important, most unbelievably magical thing that can ever happen to you in your entire lifetime. There really are no words to describe what its like to just hold the one you love. Its like you're the only two people in the entire universe, you don't care about anything else. When you're in the moment, and you just the two of you, that's the most special feeling you can ever experience. Just being alone with them, knowing that their your and you're theirs. Forever.    

Everyone has different ideas of what love is or what it should be. I don't think you you ask any one person and ever get the same exact answer. Those that have never loved or have never been loved have no idea of how it feels, you cant even comprehend of amazing you feel. It changes you forever. Love is about being caring, committed and intimate with that one special person. They can make you act like a completely      different person when you're alone but with it still being the you, the real you that only they get to see.

You find him when you realise that when he leaves your heart aches and you're sad the instant that he leaves your side. You get excited before every time you next see him. You find yourself smiling at him for no reason other than the fact you're so in your element just because you're with him. Love is having someone you're so proud to be with. You want to show them off because they are utterly perfect in your eyes.

Love In Winter

This is just a little poem I found. Its very cute and very fitting for all of you lovers in this festive season. Christmas time can bring out so much love and happiness. And this poem can brighten your darkest days.

Snowflakes dancing. 

Our eyes, romancing. 

White bliss. 

A frosty, precious kiss. 

Skating together on thin ice. 

Hands clasped tight. 

Won't let you go. 

True love will grow. 

We whirl. 

Into our bright future. 

Smiling all of the way. 

No worries, just skate. 

You lift me up in pure delight. 

Set me down in lover's moonlight. 

We shine. 

Hearts beating softly, in time. 

I am yours and you are mine. 

Forever and especially, tonight.

5 signs that you're in love

After dating someone for a while or spending a lot of time with someone you have a thing for, you might start to wonder how you actually feel about them. Is it love or just a crush? How do you really know? Well here's a little fact for you.... Based on psychological study, a crush only lasts for a maximum of 4 months. If it exceeds, you are already in love. But if that doesn't convince you then I hope this helps! I've included little bits about my own experience as well as the general things that apply to everyone.

1. DAYDREAMING: Now this is a hugely obvious one. This happens when you have a simple crush on someone, but its intensified when you're in love. I did this from day one of meeting my boyfriend and I still do it to this day, showing just how ridiculously soppy I am! You will find your mind wandering even during important tasks and find yourself daydreaming about your new boyfriend/girlfriend and your potential future life together. Many individuals falling in love are amazed by the ease with which they communicate with their new partner. The ability to communicate easily with a potential partner likely means that you trust the person and are, at least in partly, in love with them.

2. CONSTANT TOGETHERNESS: Individuals falling in love often want to be with the object of their affection at all times. People entering a new and heavy romance often engage in almost constant communication, including rapid texting and a desire to pick up the phone and make contact with your new guy/girl may mean that you are already falling head over heels. For me, rapid texting before my boyfriend and I became a couple probably helped speed up the process, we were texting all day everyday.

3. EMOTIONS: If you find yourself a little more cheery as of late, you may be entering the world of love. Having someone that cares about you so much has a strong abilty to make even the most depressing situation seem so much better. Most people reserve emotional connections for family members or individuals of major importance in their lives. If you feel an unexplainable strong emotional connection to your new partner, you are likely falling in love. Concern for the ones we love is only natural. If you find yourself concerned about your partner's physical and emotional well-being even when there is no reason to think that he is not fine, you are likely in love with the new man/woman in your life. This is one I do especially. I cant help but worry about my boyfriend all the time. 

4. BRAGGING: New couples commonly brag about their partner to anyone who will hang around long enough to listen. If you can't help but make boastful statements about your newest partner, love is likely on the horizon. I sort of did this at the beginning of my relationship, but I was very subtle about it. I was proud to show off my boyfriend, mostly because are relationship was out of the blue and it shocked a lot of our close friends. 

5. PLEASING/COMPROMISE: If you are willing to rub your new man's  feet or give him a three-hour back massage, you are likely motivated by the budding love that you feel. And if you find yourself also willing to trade in your scrapbooking materials for a set of golf clubs or season tickets to Man Utd, you are likely more than just a little into your current partner. Compromising is another thing you may change. It is necessary in any relationship, but many people still resist giving in to these give-and-take arrangements. If you feel like you actually want to make compromises, you may just be falling in love. To make a relationship work, at least small amounts of change are commonly necessary. For example, the amount of times I have endured football matches is endless, but it works both ways and my boyfriend has put up with my many addictions of tv programmes!

My boyfriend expressing his feelings to me

So basically I asked my boyfriend how he felt about me and he went a little overboard with it. But it was down right adorable and made me cry, and is probably the most amazing thing someone has ever said to me. So here it is.... 

Well where do I start? Jasmine Bianca Broadhead. My girl my first and last true love, the first thing I think about in the morning and the last thing I think about when I fall asleep, and to be honest the majority of the hours I'm awake your on my mind in some way or another as well! The amount I care about you is insane, ( i.e. to say I'd kill for you is a possibility) And yes perhaps its too much sometimes and I get protective but I don't care! That's the 0.1% of me you will have to live with! But yeah I will try to never let anyone hurt you, and put it this way if I could take any pain away from you I would, I'd take a bullet for you, I'd take 10 bullets for you and yeah I'd die for you. I love you too much for words, and our future is going to be downright amazing. We'll grow old together, we'll have kids (preferably one boy! I couldn't cope with having just girls in my family id go mental! hahaa) and our wedding will be just speechlessly amazing! Preferably abroad as well! And yeah we'll die together. I just will always love you. And finally you are perfection. My beautiful, amazing, stunning, sexy, little minx who I wouldn't change for the world. 

How I fell in love

This is literally written as a story, as if its not even about me, but it is! My boyfriend wrote it for me when we were talking about the past and I've just tweaked it and added a few points. 

Well there were these two people. The girl 16 and the boy 18. They were at the same school but never really properly knew who each other were. They'd gone through their entire school lives not paying attention or noticing one another. But, as fate may have it, in the boys last A-Level exam before he was due to never ever come back to that school, the girl had her GCSE exam that same day, in that same room. The boy was already sat down by the window at the front. Then the girl walks in and at that exact moment he turned around and saw her. By some coincidence he had took notice to her facebook just the day before, so he knew who she was. Throughout that entire exam he couldn't stop looking at her, but to not seem rude he looked at her reflection in the window instead. Then a few days and a few facebook likes later, the boy plucked up the courage and messaged the girl completely out of the blue and they got talking. They seemed to just click straight away and exactly 9 days later they went on there first date. But the girl was unsure what to expect as this meeting had not been defined as a date and neither had admitted to liking one another. But that day was just bliss, so wonderful and neither of them will ever forget it. The spent a whole day together without it getting awkward or being bored. They held hands, hugged and shared there first kiss at the end of the date, with them both wanting to see the other again. It was basically love at first sight, and for the next few weeks neither of them could stop thinking about the other. It wasnt until the next date, exactly 22 days later that they made there amazing relationship official for all to see. And 2 & a half years down the line the two of them are just as happy, if not more, then they were after there first date. Unlike most fairytales its fair to say that this couple will definitely live happily ever after.
      And later after being a couple for a few months , they found out that the boy had failed the exam because he was too distracted by the girl. At first of course this news was devastating as it meant the boy couldn't go to university. But it meant they had an entire extra year to be together. And who knows how long they'd have lasted if hed of gone to uni only months after being together.

Unfortunate Beginnings

I'm lucky to have the most amazing, kind and gorgeous boyfriend in the world. And when our relationship started, I never thought that something like this could unearth itself. To my knowledge, J had no secrets he kept from me. But after friends began to learn of my relationship I started to hear stories about a previous 'girlfriend' (I quotation this as I later found this to not be the case). This girl just so happened to be my bestfriend's close friend and was fast becoming my friend also. I was warned not to stay with him because of this supposedly bad past. After a period of a few weeks it finally got to me so I confronted J and asked to hear about this girl, A. He explained everything to me. A was a very confident person, overconfident in fact, and at the age of 14 messaged J,18 at the time, on facebook. J not knowing her age quite happily talked to her as a friend because they were at the same school. But A was wanting more, she saw their conversations as much more than J did. She began talking as if they were a couple, even though they had barely even passed each other in the halls at school. J then found out her age and wanted nothing to do with her, but she told him she loved him to try and keep him talking. J avoided her as much as he could at school, he was teased about talking to a young girl, but he never felt for her that way. But A is crazy, she began threatening to kill herself to keep him, so J said he loved her back, out of fear. He then came up with a lie to get rid of her, he told her that his parents had found out about her age so they couldn't be together, when he never loved her in the first place. But he handled the situation badly, and she said she'd wait until she was 16 and then they could be together. And even though he had now got rid of her A didn't give up, she texted him so he changed his number. Just a few months before A turned 16, J met me. This also was around the same time me and A became friends. But after she found out about us, I think the situation turned into 'keep your friends close and your enemies closer', because she wasn't really my friend. We had a sleepover, we were having fun and getting on, I at this point had no clue about J's past with A. But as we were sitting side by side, I was texting J and without me knowing so was she, trying to get a response out of him. I didn't find this out until months later. She tried to contact him for moths, so I decided it was time to tell her the truth. I told her that J never loved her, and that they never had a relationship, it was all in her head and that he wanted nothing to do with her, everyone thinks shes crazy. She didnt take it well,after that she hated me. But still tried to make digs at our relationship. Now, I do not notice her existence. She is the one person that I truly hate. But through all of her drama and insanity, i'm 2 and a half years down the line of my extremely happy relationship.